Friday, March 16, 2012

A Very Heart Felt Moment I Want To Share With You

If you have been around a while than you have gotten to know me at some point. You may have been with me on my ups and my downs. You might have gotten to know that I am a genuine kidda guy that is doing and living at the level of self sufficient that I choose to do. I share my mistakes because I make them, I am keeping it real. So I am going to put my feelings right out here, not for judgment, but just because that is the kind of man that I am.

I went to the old farm I was raised on yesterday alone. I decided that I was near there looking at a job and I just wanted to stop in and have a look around. The last visit I had was with my family in tow and I was shocked to see what had happened to the farm. I didn't know what I was thinking about how it would look 5 years later, I was just excited to get there...

Breaking the law isn't something I consider, but I crossed over the sign and continued my way towards the barns. Down near where the chickens once scratched under the brush, I decided to sit and think about what I was looking at. I never thought my emotions would run so deep with a passion of love for a place. But if there was going to be a place that could make this 41 y/o cry, that farm would be the place.

I think as a man we might try to pin point what makes us who we are, maybe it isn't gender based. All I can say is, living on that farm and how we lived made me into what I am today. It wasn't just the good times, it was all the times. I can't say how many times I walked up the hill to pick Mom out a switch because I was gonna get it for something, and if it broke while you were getting it than she made you get another one.

The days of working before school feeding the animals, gathering eggs, milking the goats on the stand. Scratching the pigs because we knew they liked it. Showing some love to the pigs just before they were killed. Watching them mate and understand how life really was. We made sling shots from old bike tubes, played bows and arrows use cherry wood and fly fishing string and dried golden rod stocks for arrows. The giggles and childhood care free of running around.

When winter came, it gave a whole new twist on the farm land... Teenage sledding riding tradition would be carried on!! Runner sleds, pork fat, snow ramps, busted noses and face plants. Sometimes it would be a all day event, we would come in ready to drop.

In the summer, it was gardening, getting ready for the fair. My sister would walk with her pigs with a cane teaching them how to walk for the county fair. On time my step brother and I chased her around with a pigs head, she could take it, she cried and laughed at the same time. Kids fight, and I had my share of fights with all the other kids.

We once had a duck that swam backwards, yeah I know imagine that. He stayed in the pond a few weeks, and after saving his life from the pond pipe a few times, he had passed away from that fate. I spent that summer out in a tent in the yard, every night. I'd sneak up and have a taste of beer from the pony keg of Iron City Beer always found on a ice block on the back porch.I'd go listen to my walkman playing my tapes and just stare into the vast dark, city light spotted night sky.

As I stood in the doorway of the barn where I hung my head out the window during neutering time, I saw the barn, just for a moment, as it was back then. I began to softly cry, and it felt good as I was alone and I knew I had to come to terms with how sad it was for me. I could hear my giggles echoing down the hallways and the smell of those stinky pigs. I would be mad some days when we had to clean up the stalls, I wanted to be out running in the fields and in the woods playing Grizzly Adams. But, I knew during harvest time I had to drag those trash cans down the row of beans.

That small piece of broken down land, left to go back to the soil in which she was built on, defined me as a man, as a Modern Pioneer. It was the place where the soil gave back to us, and hard work gave results. It was a place where children played and cried, where mornings were cold and ice patterns were on the inside of our windows. It had a huge cast iron tub and the bathroom was pink. It was a place where we would sit outside to eat dinner and we would have real conversations and adults would discuss farm issues. They would depend on us for information on how the animals were doing.

I wish that old farm was still up and running, but I am as happy with being the last family to live there too. Tomorrow I will return back there to take some gates down and bring them back to my own homestead to use. I will have to come to terms with such a great loss and keep going forward with everything I learned there, what was instilled in me as a child.


  1. Wow, I smiled and cried with you on this journey. Just remember, this homestead you are building with your family, will hold the same memories for your children. Oh, there might not be a great barn, or pigs to scratch, but great memories just the same. Hold your head high, and cherish these memories. Our children will all make the same walk one day...and we can only hope we have left them with the same level of comfort you have found there.

  2. 'WOW' is right HDA. Words so true. I went on such a journey a few yrs ago to my grandparent's old homestead. I heard the new folks were 'fixing it up'. I cried, not at their attempt, but at their failure. All the outbuildings and fruit trees were gone. There was no place for a garden, even the flower and herb beds were cemented over. I cried and drove away. All I can do now is work on my own little piece of Heaven.

  3. Thanks for sharing this. A multitude of memories came to mind-my Dad's Homestead which only was a house foundation and sheep fences of stones and a pleasant cove called The Sheep Wash; my Grandmothers where I spent entire summers in Foxboro, I haven't been back as it's over 12 hours away; my childhood home in Peterborough where I was raised birth to 9-visited it when I had 2 of my spaniels there entered in a Dog one was home...but all the flowers, hedges, blue spruce, stone steps and walkways GONE...but the house still has the original awnings and looked the hurt tho, as I have memories of falling asleep in the hammock above my Mom's wild flower bed, next the blooming hydrageas, with the neighbour's row of chestnut trees and spruce towering overhead...I hear you Jason...Sometimes all we have is memories...BUT AREN'T WE BLESSED TO HAVE THOSE!

  4. Stories from the heart are ALWAYS the best! Thanks for sharing. I think I was there with you for a moment!

  5. LOVE this story. I have many memories of time spent on my grandparents' farm. Love the simple life! I'm building a new blog with some similar ideas ... would love for you to check it out!

  6. I hope I can give memories like those to my daughters. As we plunder ouir way to making ourselves our Homestead. I have them from I grew up on commune land(though I was young) I have scent and sound memories). Like the smell of breaking an Orange open outside on a fresh snowcovered day. :)

  7. I can relate to how you felt. A couple years ago the old family home that my husband grew up in was torn down. We went to visit the home just before it was destroyed and my husband told me stories of his childhood there. I had to smile, and cry, as I listened his tales of boyish antics and farm life.

    We went to see the site after the demolition. We were both taken aback to see there was absolutely nothing left to the old homestead except for part of the foundation. Everything else had been buried on site and bulldozed over. It was if the home never existed. It was with that realization that my husband quietly sobbed beneath his breath. It was a very sobering day for us.

  8. I can relate to all but the snow. Being a 13th gen. Floridian I did'nt get to see any snow until I went in service. very good storie, well said Thank You.

  9. I feel your joy and pain, Jason. My memories are similar- work, play, work some more. I now own that old house that raised generations of children, including me. The barn is long since gone; I tore down the chicken coop. Now the house is collapsing, drooping, showing all of its almost 300 years of service. We had to move a year and 9 months ago. If it's still standing in another year, I'll be surprised. Hopefully we can got out the few family heirlooms left there before the inevitable happens. Keep your pictures safe. Remember the joy more than the pain. And keep yourself the way you were made to be. I truly understand.